Let me tell you how 2014 has been for me so far.
In the first hour of January 1st, my Mom complained about stomach pains. We took her to the hospital but the Doctor did nothing but ask us why we came to the emergency room for an upset stomach. We were so mad at his snaky remark that we decided to go back home but a week later the pains got worse. So she maked an appointment with her Doctor, who might be the laziest Doctor I’ve ever seen in my life. My Mom describes what’s happening and this lady, if you can call her that, decides it’s just an infection. A conclusion she came to without running any test. She didn’t even touch her! She just looked at her for a minute and decided that it wasn’t a big deal. I wouldn’t be surprised if she high-fived herself when she walked out the door.
A few months later (yes, Months!) my Mother is still in pain. We decided to try another hospital (My Mother lives in a small town five hours away from me so there is only one hospital.) We check her in and they finally run some test. She has a tumor in her stomach which is the size of a fist. They think it’s cancer but they don’t know (She’s had cancer before and beat it but they don’t know if this is the same kind of cancer.)
At this point she’s complaining about her leg now but the Doctors aren’t worried about that, although they should be.
She’s still in the hospital, she’s been there for five weeks and although she is getting a little better, I recently got a call from her saying the Doctors have given up and want to check her into a Hospice. This is a big No No for two reasons. First, My Mom has always hated those places and for good reason. We’ve heard horror stories about what happens there and we don’t want her in there for that reason. Second, They’re making the call for us! Yes, The Great Doctors has locked the family and my Mother out of the decision making process about her health. Even though her former Doctor, who managed to kill the cancer last time, said she was part of the reason why they beat it the first time and was happy to have a patient that did as much as she could for herself.
Now, It’s just not what the Doctors said but how they said that pisses me off.
(I try to stay away from politics but I know the more politically savvy readers will have something to say about the following quote.) He said…..
“While this treatment might help her it’s just to expensive under the Affordable care act.”
There you are folks. Take that however you want.
Oh but that’s not the only big problem that 214 has gifted me.
My older sister is married to an abusive man. She hasn’t visited my mother because he said she can’t.
My younger sister married a drug dealer and is now an addict. Honestly, he’s one of the nicest guys I’ve meant but he’s drug dealer and he got her hooked on the stuff he’s selling.
Oh yeah! And my laptop battery won’t hold a charge anymore. So there’s that.
I just need something great to happen now. I need a win but the way this year has been I don’t have high hopes that’ll happen. But I’ve been wrong before.
The only silver lining in all of this is that I haven’t contemplated suicide yet.